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Generation In-Between: A Xennial Podcast
Xennial co-hosts Dani and Katie talk about their analog childhoods, digital adulthoods and everything in between. If you love 1980's and 1990's pop culture content, this is the podcast for you!
Generation In-Between: A Xennial Podcast
Sisters' Questionnaire: 80's and 90's Nostalgia with Tara
Were you watching TV shows you had no business watching in the second grade because your older sibling controlled the remote?
Did your middle-school diary pages include angry rants about the thighmaster your older sister received for Christmas?
If you can sing along to every Gen X ballad, even though you were born a little later, you might be a Xennial with an older Gen X sibling. And Dani is too.
Special thanks to today's special guest, Tara—our favorite Gen X sibling!
Katie created a special guessing game to commemorate this visit. Which sister knows more about the other? Find out!
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Hey there, Generation Inbetween, we are back with a new episode and we have a very special guest today in a very special format today that Katie created all on her own. You have heard me talk about this person many times and she was a very pivotal point of my childhood drama. My big sister, Tara, is here with us today and, FYI, Tara does not like to do these things. She does. She's not a performer, she is not a real excited about having attention, but she loves me. So here she is and she was like fine, I'll do it. Okay. So I was going to do a bio. I was like Tara, do you have a bio? And she was like what? Like a resume? Nurse practitioner extraordinaire. She's also a dog mom of two hilarious dogs that they constantly check on their phone because their pet sitter has videos constantly coming.
Speaker 2:I love that. That is so fun. Yeah, she'll show you pictures after. Okay, don't worry.
Speaker 1:Good, yep, what else? Tara knows a lot about pop culture and she's seven years older than me and is the reason why I know so much about the 80s, because I watched lots of stuff and listened to lots of things when I wasn't supposed to be, because that's what we did in the 80s and we had parents that kind of paid attention.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so for listeners who either don't remember or, for some reason, this might be their first episode, true? What's the age difference with you guys? I just said it.
Speaker 1:I said seven years yeah.
Speaker 2:I just thought you said my older sister. I did Everyone at seven years.
Speaker 1:I'm used to being ignored, it's all right. Oh my God. Anyway, seven years, yes, tara was seven when I was born.
Speaker 2:Got um anyway seven years. Yes, tara was seven when I was born. Got it, got it.
Speaker 1:So then when tara? Was like teen teen, so you would have been still like little lower elementary yeah okay, so imagine all the things that, because, like you were for 13, 14, in what year? 1987 right 87 so all the things you were watching in the late 80s I was also watching, which is why I know a bunch of Gen X stuff, even though I'm technically not part of that. That's right. My coming of age was more in the 90s. So, any who's any the how yeah.
Speaker 2:Here we are. So, tara, we know you've listened to some episodes, and so tell us what you think of the podcast hold it closer the microphone.
Speaker 1:Yes, there we go, you got it.
Speaker 3:I mean, y'all do such a really great job, I really. The most recent one I listened to was the diary oh okay, snap I.
Speaker 1:so I sent it to her because if y'all, if y'all have not listened to the Dear Diary episode, where I actually read some of my diary from when I was a kid, the very first entry, I was very pissed Because my sister right here got what she wanted for Christmas, which was a Stairmaster and a Thighmaster.
Speaker 3:And I don't even remember wanting that.
Speaker 1:Well, I guess you did. I guess so, but you were really upset. I was really pissed because I did not get the TCR that I wanted.
Speaker 2:Yes, you wouldn't know what that is.
Speaker 1:You remember, it's a TV that has a VCR in the bottom.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, all in one. Okay, all in one. Those things ended up being a huge pain down the road.
Speaker 1:Yes, they did.
Speaker 2:Because the VCR part would break, heart would break, oh yeah, still work. And then you couldn't like cook another vcr up to it. I don't know why I have such a foundational memory of that being such a pain, but I do but 12 year old me wanted one in my room yeah, I mean you were really mad. You said like f everyone fuck tara. On christmas you wrote that in your diary. I know it's time to just put the e on our episodes.
Speaker 2:I have been half of the last week I've been going back and doing it.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's good, yeah, yeah, we're putting the e. Tara's also a huge potty mouse, so it's definitely gonna I was just really impressed.
Speaker 3:You put all that out in the world yeah, because tara and I are very opposite. Yeah but I mean really like that was very vulnerable of you to like do that, so that's props.
Speaker 1:Yeah for that so where's your diary? Where?
Speaker 3:that's what you're, I was surprised, shocking, I wasn't a diary keeper I know, yeah, tara is very like we are.
Speaker 1:Well, we are very opposite, but we are alike and something like we sound alike you do. If you haven't noticed, she still has like a Louisiana accent.
Speaker 2:I only have it sometimes, but she lived there longer than me, um, but we're very different in like that I well, I don't know, I'm very dramatic and she is too, but she hides it better yeah, I feel like Tara, just what I know of you, you're like just kind of like a live your life in the moment kind of person and just keep going right, whereas, like danny and me too, I think we have to take a long time to process things before we can move forward.
Speaker 1:Well, and tara's also very logical and analytical, like I mean, there's a reason why she's good at her job in the medical world, like math and science brain. So like you put her down to play pictionary, she's good at her job in the medical world, like math and science brain. So like you put her down to play Pictionary, she's like I don't want to do that, Like no, yeah, definitely no no, what is your favorite game?
Speaker 3:Oh, I'm asking all the hard questions today, I don't, I don't think I have a game.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, I'm a game player. I feel that you have to move the microphone with your head.
Speaker 2:I'm not a game player. You're not a game player.
Speaker 1:She will, I mean she will participate. She will participate, Okay, Like with the kids, Like we love playing games in our house. So her wife, on the other hand, is like, yeah, no Does she play when you guys play Not usually, but like she'll just sit with us, like last night she was sitting and like laughing at all of Tara's answers.
Speaker 3:She's much more of an introvert.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I get that. Tara's both. Like I'm very extroverted, tara's more of an ambivert, which most people are, I think. Most people are a little of both, like you can kind of swing.
Speaker 2:Yeah for sure. Well, um, I put together. I know this is so cool, this is so great. So, with the magic of google forms, um, some of our listeners may remember the cringy game show that was the newlywed game, yes, and basically the couples would go on and answer the same questions about, or they'd ask a question about the person like and the husband would answer about the wife, or vice versa, and they'd see if their answer answers matched. So I made a version of that, just call. I just called it sister's question. I know sister's questionnaire. It's really catchy. It's going so good. Storm the world. Um, look at everyone, but essentially Dani and Tara, without seeing each other's answered answered questions about each other. Yeah, so what we're going to do? We'll probably just go question by question and go back and forth. Some of them are pretty straightforward, like favorite color stuff, like that. Some of it's a little deeper and some of it has to do with, like memories you guys have, and some of them are really funny.
Speaker 1:I I was giggling. I can't wait. I already forgot what I my answers it's okay, I have them good.
Speaker 2:So if you're like, I think I said green, I totally forgot you said yellow.
Speaker 1:Well, and I told her too well. First of all she was like wait, do I print this out and bring it?
Speaker 2:I was like, oh my god, you're so old although I printed it out, but that's because I didn't want to toggle back and forth and get it well, no, that's fine.
Speaker 1:But she's like do I print it out and fill it out like a form? No, uh, it's a google anyway. Uh, her wife is an it person, so she was like no, terry just answer and submit uh, and so, uh, we also did answer. I told her. I said okay, some of these we need to answer from our childhood. So I messaged her. I was like these certain questions.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Answer like from our childhood It'll be funnier, smart. Those are probably the ones that made you laugh Probably.
Speaker 2:Well, there's one that didn't that she answered about you. That was earlier.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know which one yeah.
Speaker 2:All right, yeah, all right. I don't think you'll say it either, but you never know. I'd be shocked if she does. Um, oh god, but this is like we're recording during the holiday week, tomorrow thanksgiving.
Speaker 2:That's why tara's in town, she's visiting for thanksgiving, yeah, um, so this morning I printed these out and I was my husband's like what are you doing? So I was explaining it to him. I was like you know, what should I make? Like the cards, because we're going to be on youtube. Oh, that's funny. He, you could. But how many questions do you have? I'm like counting, I'm like yeah, that's too, long he goes. That's a lot of work. I was like I'm just gonna print it out.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, that would have been.
Speaker 1:I can make food and do all the things. I feel like if we would have tried to do that, it would not have translated and we would have just been messing with papers the whole time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or poster board, or get them all out of order and anyway. So no, yeah, we don't have the whole production staff.
Speaker 1:And I mean we're a podcast before we're on YouTube. So anyway, it's good point. All about the auditory experience.
Speaker 2:It is Please, please, everyone. All right, all right, we're ready. So obviously, the first question is just who filled it out? So we're not going to do that. What did you say is your sister's or no, I'm saying it wrong. What did danny say was your favorite color? Tara, yeah, yes, ding, ding, ding, ding, pink danny. What did tara say was your favorite color? Mine's also pink yes, we do share that.
Speaker 1:She said pink or blue, but we let what I don't know why?
Speaker 3:did you say that wasn't for sure. But that's a weird. But I mean you also have changed oh yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1:So when I was a kid I did I was I mean this kind of checks. I was like bucking against the system, so I never wanted to wear pinker dresses. No okay.
Speaker 2:So if you had that whole like reverting back to childhood, childhood, I don't I, who knows what I would have said you went through a black phase right.
Speaker 1:well, that was like my, my goth grunge phase yeah.
Speaker 3:I mean pink came about more with sorority stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, tara and I were in the same sorority, really. Yes, at the same college Go.
Speaker 2:Phi Mu Go, phi Mu Phi Mu. Yes, not at the same time, because obviously she graduated. Well, yeah, but same college.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, cool. It was funny because when I went through Rush I was like of course I'm, like I am not going to be a FIMU just because my sister was I'm not, but of course that's where I liked it the best and I was like damn it. Guess I'm going to do this.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:I love that. Oh, that's so fun Okay.
Speaker 3:I mean, and you've evolved over the years too, and for some reason that sounded like maybe that was a phase.
Speaker 1:What's Troy's favorite color?
Speaker 2:Oh, whoopsie, that's what I meant, Troy Danny same person, same thing when you're buying things like for their home. You know pink or blue, it's a good bet, yeah.
Speaker 1:Or orange, like Luigi the cat. I love Luigi. We do have orange in our house though. Yeah, you do. Actually it's orange, teal and yellow, yeah you're right, but no pink. No, because the rest of my house is not into pink. Cooper has pink on his walls, okay.
Speaker 2:Two of them. You bring the pink like your existence in the home.
Speaker 1:That's what it is. Let's go.
Speaker 2:I love it. Okay so, Tara, what did Danny say your profession is?
Speaker 3:I hope she got that right and that it so when I tell them yeah yes, exactly, she already said it in the resume portion.
Speaker 2:Okay, but this might be a little trickier. Oh no, what's Tara?
Speaker 1:as your profession. Well, I hope she put personal trainer, but does she put something smart?
Speaker 2:assy too she she is a sort of fitness guru, oh, but there's two more, oh there's three professions that you got me there. One's really obvious right now what's your like favorite hobby?
Speaker 3:well, it's not a hobby, it's a talent.
Speaker 2:Yeah I don't know what did she put?
Speaker 1:she said podcast oh, oh, my god, but you're like literally right in the moment. Yeah, if you're on youtube, danny was looking around the room, that's the microphone.
Speaker 2:Turning away from the microphone, is there a job hiding behind? Me but then the one that she was saying is your talent. She said stage actress. Oh well, so Dani is a podcaster, stage actress and fitness guru. Okay, well, look at you building me up there. I think that's like goes back to the whole, like analytical and straight to the point and not so like. Your job is like exactly this, yes, and hers is like well, that's probably true. True, he's kind of a guru kind of an actor?
Speaker 2:I don't know danny's looking around the podcast studio. What are they talking? Hello job, come find me. Oh, my goodness, okay, okay so we're doing really well, you guys are doing pretty good. Yeah, tara, what is the one thing danny said you cannot live without?
Speaker 1:oh, I don't remember what I wrote I'm trying to think what she? I don't think I wrote anything deep here.
Speaker 2:It's not deep yeah, oh, then I know honey oh, that's a good one, course she's make.
Speaker 1:that makes the most sense. No, she said LaCroix.
Speaker 3:Oh, the drink.
Speaker 1:I was thinking you would say my job, which. What did she bring in here?
Speaker 2:She brought in a LaCroix that I knocked over. I know With the light I mean, yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, tara's a workaholic. Yeah, that's what I thought you would, so probably job I guess I was right, right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I like that. I mean a lot of my identity, which is this is probably bad yeah, you're gonna share trauma on here. That's what we do. A lot of my identity comes from achievement and job. Yeah, I mean, it's not healthy, that's all right. I've spent a lot of time in therapy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm okay with it now but but also also you're the oldest, which I think falls upon a lot of old, older siblings. Yeah, birth order.
Speaker 2:I'm the oldest in my family too, yeah.
Speaker 1:And Katie has 10 jobs, so right yeah.
Speaker 2:I have to be the best at all of them all at the same time, or I have a identity crisis, right?
Speaker 3:Yes, Because I mean people say like if you didn't have your job, what you have, and I mean like I can't even think of that, like I don't know yeah, that's interesting because, especially when my kids were a lot smaller, people would be like I can't believe you work, dadadadadad.
Speaker 2:I'm like well, first of all, I have to.
Speaker 2:Well, right, so there's that hello but second, of all kind of like you. I was like I don't know, like, personally, I think that's fine if, if you're not actively working for a phase of your life or whatever, because of something going on with your family, whatever that may be, but for me I was like what? What? Huh right, exactly, who would I mean be like, yeah, so I get it and and it can be unhealthy, but I mean like whoa, there's way more unhealthy things that could be the case, oh yeah and and we won't go into that like lucky for the people who are partners with us?
Speaker 2:yeah, because we're gonna make it.
Speaker 1:We're we're making the money, we're making things happen like no matter what but then getting getting you guys to chill out for a minute, it's really hard, unlucky for our partners that doesn't happen very often yeah yeah, yeah, okay, well, danny, oh, geez, so what? Did? She say I can't live without what did tara say?
Speaker 2:that you cannot live without my god chocolate.
Speaker 3:No, no, one another guess I don't think you'll ever guess any of these it's wrong now, like in the past five minutes um, I don't know when it changed, but you used to like it, but apparently you don don't anymore. I realized that when I've been here.
Speaker 2:Oh, I did think that one, that one was interesting. I was like I didn't know that, yeah, but it must've changed. Was it Diet Coke? Oh yeah, so Diet. Coke's on here.
Speaker 1:Um well, you haven't paid attention for the past four years cause I have not been drinking Diet Coke for really a long time.
Speaker 2:Well, for a long time, well, I haven't seen you in two. I know whoa yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, okay. So diet coke was one. Yeah, I diet coke. I used to drink diet coke like I drink coffee, oh, wow okay yeah, I gave up artificial sweeteners years back.
Speaker 2:Um because yeah, anyway, um that she had more than one. Yes, but I don't think you'll guess the other two.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm not going to guess.
Speaker 2:Okay, so the first one is electricity, which, I mean you have said you will not go camping. I tell, you.
Speaker 1:She's very analytical and logical. I, on the other hand, am like chocolate. I don't know.
Speaker 2:LaCroix, you did say LaCroix. Okay, so electricity, diet, coke and sex.
Speaker 3:I'd probably be fine without that. I was just throwing in there. I told Lucy on the plane. I was like I'm putting sex on here just to see what she does.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I was dying reading them.
Speaker 3:Okay, probably not that's hilarious, you sound like a crazy sex fiend person that's hiding it from the world.
Speaker 1:I was like, oh really, Okay, Katie's like we haven't talked about that.
Speaker 3:Diet Coke and sex.
Speaker 1:These are two do the same. I mean if we're talking a life or death basis. I can give it up If I had to, Not a problem.
Speaker 2:I mean electricity, no.
Speaker 1:No, but sex and Diet.
Speaker 2:Coke electricity, no, but sex and diet Coke, yes, oh my God, I was dying. I mean to be fair.
Speaker 1:I guess nobody can live without that, because it is like part of your human needs. But chocolate.
Speaker 2:But also nah, okay, we're going to just leave that one one, and okay we're sucking on this. I cannot wait so, tara, what did danny say? Is your most used emoji? Thumbs up, or that's a good one oh, it's laughy face.
Speaker 3:I do not get creative with the emoji.
Speaker 1:No, she's the right dude. I almost put thumbs up.
Speaker 3:Those are my only two that I use Thumbs up and Laffy Face. I mean you hardly know how to change them.
Speaker 2:It's just like oh, it's in my suggestions because I use it so much. Right there, it's good, that's so good, super good.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:La. Then Tara, or, I'm sorry Dani what did Tara say? Is your most used emoji? Probably Laffy Face. Yes, no, yes, she put two. Why did you put so many answers so I get one of them, right, oh right, she's again analytical, yeah, statistics. So hers is the laughing sideways. Oh, that is the one I use, mm-hmm. And then hand to face like the oh yeah, what is that face palm, yeah that was.
Speaker 1:That probably is my number two, because I'd be messing stuff up just like oh excuse me all, right, oh crap, okay, so. I didn't know you could write multiple things.
Speaker 2:Thanks, I didn't really give any rules, I was just like fill this out. Okay. So, dani, who did Tara say is the better cook? Oh, her for sure, yes.
Speaker 1:No doubt.
Speaker 2:Tara, who did Dani say is the better cook?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I hate cooking. I hate loathe despise. Tara's good at it and she likes it.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, that's good.
Speaker 1:But I'm the better baker you are. Yeah, I don't make. Yeah, you're really good at baking, I don't make anything.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's perfect. You guys should open a little restaurant.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:I don't like it that much.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no we weren't taught to cook either I've had no interest, though I didn't care but we also didn't come from like a, a cooking household. No, that's fair we kind of had to teach ourselves over the years you think that's why you like it. No, oh no, like the, it's kind of like um, I also don't like super complicated things to make, so you can't have a whole lot of ingredients, a whole lot of steps, like I like pretty simple, but it's just kind of like.
Speaker 1:It's kind of like a science experiment yeah, well, and at least he has picky too, so you have to be careful. I mean same everybody in my house is picky too, right, yeah, so right, I know, that's why I don't try like very exciting things yeah it's literally me the only one that eats it.
Speaker 2:Right, maybe two of seven people will eat what I make. Yeah, yeah, and that's so that makes me. Then I'm just mad at everybody. I might as well just bake chicken and make white rice and throw some broccoli on the plate and you're good to go. That's the extent of my cooking. Yes, all right, cool, okay. So, danny, what did Tara say is something you would argue about as kids?
Speaker 1:People chewing loudly at the dinner table. Did you say that? Oh wait, that you would argue with me? Wait, that was my answer.
Speaker 2:You guys would argue with each other. Hold on. You guys would argue with each other, guys, hold on. You guys would argue and I argue about.
Speaker 3:Yeah, now I remember what it was oh my god.
Speaker 1:Uh, I don't know. Well, I was gonna. Well, on my answer, it was because that's something that drives me crazy. Uh, we would argue about as kids that she was being mean to me.
Speaker 3:I don't know, that is too vague.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm trying to think.
Speaker 3:I can't think of something. Okay, you want a hint? Yeah.
Speaker 1:We played it last night. Oh, dr Mario Used to fight over Nintendo. Oh, we sure did. Used to fight over Nintendo and she always won because she was older. Yeah, yes.
Speaker 2:What to watch on Nintendo and she always won because she was older. Yeah, yes, what to watch on TV and who got to play Nintendo Facts that makes sense coming from an older sibling.
Speaker 1:I messed up that whole thing.
Speaker 2:So now, tara, what did Dani say? You guys argued about, as kids, People chewing loudly at the dinner table.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Actually it says Tara chewing loudly.
Speaker 3:I think it was anybody, but I sat next to her.
Speaker 2:Uh, yes, that would make it very obvious hello, which listeners you know.
Speaker 1:I have a technical word for that and it is called misophonia, and lots of listeners told me they have it too. Yeah, it's real, it is real so haha, family that told me I was being dramatic. Cooper has has it too.
Speaker 2:Oh, does he, Does he, oh man?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you can't not hear it. And he sits next to me and like that's. The thing is that I can't hear myself and I know I chew loud but I can't stand in other people's eyes Like you're such a hypocrite and I know, and Cooper is like sitting next to me, I'm like you can go sit over there, like you can I get it like go remove yourself. But he won't he'll just stare at you. You're a loud chewer, I'm not, but I'm not like loud, but like he's next to me so he can like.
Speaker 2:Oh, he just hears you, yeah and if he's sensitive to it, yeah, okay, danny. What did tara say is the nicest thing you have ever done for her?
Speaker 1:wrote her a poem yeah, poem, yeah, which y'all?
Speaker 2:heard on air. She said she made me two books with collages and poems when I was going away to college.
Speaker 3:Those little books and I couldn't find them. But you made me two going away magazine type books with like these collages and people cut out about going to college and what I was going to do there and how you were going to miss me.
Speaker 2:Yeah. I've sent you pictures of those as I've come across them, I remember, oh, we might have to use those for the. Yeah, they're so cute, I love doing collages.
Speaker 1:Collages are fun. I love I haven't done one in forever.
Speaker 1:I love doing them, though you know my friend, derrick gorse. You know derrick gorse, yeah, that's like his art form. He makes art, collage art making. He uses different and to watch him do it is crazy, because he separates it by color, um of different words, pictures, whatever, from all kinds of print, and then makes art. It's the most coolest thing. And it's like one of those things you're like, oh, I could do that. And then you watch them and you're like, oh no, I could not do that right, because you're thinking of your own collage making.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I'm like, literally it's a picture from 17 magazine right, yeah, exactly it right. So, tara, what did Danny say is the nicest thing you've ever done for her.
Speaker 1:This is when we were little.
Speaker 2:This is a childhood, and I honestly have no idea.
Speaker 3:I have no idea what you would say. Okay.
Speaker 2:You'll remember when I decorated my Barbie dream house for a wedding with toilet paper decorations. Do you remember doing?
Speaker 3:that?
Speaker 1:No, I have no memory of that, oh my gosh, because I wanted my Barbies to have a wedding. Okay, something was going on in our lives at that point, like something bad had happened, which a lot of bad stuff happened when we were kids, so I don't know what, but you were feeling bad for me for some reason, and I wanted to do a wedding. And so you're like, oh, let's decorate. And you got a roll of toilet paper, which you guys need to know. The reason this is a big deal is Tata is not creative that's what my kids call her is Tata. She's not like so to be able to think of Ooh, what do we have? That's white toilet paper.
Speaker 1:Of course, toilet paper of course, and we and you did, we like put it all in the little thing and yeah, I had a little barbie. I know I even had I don't know if you remember I had that barbie bmw yeah, and we did something so they could get in the, in the bmw and drive away oh, was it pink. The bmw, it was blue huh, but I think, to be fair, I think that was the only one they had. It wasn't like a Barbie official, it was like a fake.
Speaker 2:Got it, got it, got it. Yeah, that's so sweet. I think that's so cool too, that that's like a foundational memory for you, I know.
Speaker 3:And you're like, huh, I did what yeah.
Speaker 2:But okay, here we go. Um tara, what did danny say? If you, tara, were stranded on a desert island, what would you bring?
Speaker 3:this is hard because I tried to be logical about it yeah for this one for sure and I try and I have to remember what she would say, like my first there's a lot of levels to this game, probably lacroix.
Speaker 1:I did not say that, so you didn't repeat an answer, it's more logical A person, because I'm codependent. Oh, I don't think you're codependent anymore. Well, I would prefer to be with people, yeah, but that's not. No, okay, I did not go that extreme.
Speaker 2:You thought it would be really straightforward. I did. She's really thinking about it.
Speaker 1:She's going to be like oh yeah, probably, but actually now that I think about my answer it kind of doesn't make sense. But it's fine.
Speaker 3:Electricity.
Speaker 1:Close. That's a good one. An air conditioner? No, I put your phone. No, you didn't. No, I didn't. Oh, what I put.
Speaker 2:You said books. No, that was hers, I'm backward.
Speaker 1:Okay, here we go your phone. Yeah well now, I just told you I know she said that about you for really smashing everyone um, that your phone, because you're more like, you're very logical and you would be like, well, obviously I'd bring my phone so I could cause mine to get me off the damn island.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, that's it. That just makes sense. Her phone because she is smart and will have a logical answer. Yeah, and then, by the way, danny, she thought you would take books I would, which makes no sense.
Speaker 1:They can't help me at all, but I'd be entertained right and then die. I also have no survival skills, and tara doesn't either. We were talking about this yesterday. Y'all heard on the podcast like I'd be the first person to die in a scary movie of a zombie apocalypse. Tara is also that way. Yes, so if we're ever on a desert island, just know we're gonna die yeah, though, with your phone and your book yeah, yeah, that'd be all right. I mean, tara probably will survive because she'll have a phone and not a book.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, but if there was, ever an instance where we're caught somewhere together. We're both dead. We're gone. Yeah, nobody's making it out, mm-mm.
Speaker 2:All right, tara, who did Wait a second? Yes, oh, but this is weird. I don't know why I asked it this way. Now I have to reverse it. Okay, dani, who did Tara say is more likely to lose their keys between the two?
Speaker 1:of you.
Speaker 2:Actually she said herself oh, and then, uh, tara, who did danny say is more likely to lose their keys? Her, yeah, so you each said yourselves yeah, that's funny, interesting. So do you guys like lose? Like you know, some people are more prone to like misplacing things.
Speaker 3:Are you guys both like that? I'm bad about putting something away and not knowing where I put it.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:I just forget where stuff is. I also because my brain is always spinning that I like don't pay attention when I do something and I'm like how'd that end up there? It's because I'm doing like 100 things at once. And my brain is going like crazy. That's me too.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Or if I do anything out of routine or like take a different bag or something, yeah, then for some reason I can't remember that I took a different bag and that's probably where my like keys or my notebook or my wallet is at. It's like literally like, just stop, yeah. Look at any picture on your phone, from anywhere you go, and you'll see that you're carrying a different bag. That's where it is. But no, doesn't matter. No, if it's not in the pocket.
Speaker 1:No, I just I misplace things all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah you just last night what was it?
Speaker 1:the christmas list oh yeah, oh, this was so annoying. So tori has four siblings, so there's five of them total, plus they all all have partners, and then there's a step-mom and her partner, and so it's a lot. It's 12 people. So we decided last year let's not try and buy presents for everybody, we're going to name draw.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:So I I like organized it or whatever and we have like a Google form to fill out and I was waiting for everybody to finish. They finished and so I was like, okay, well, let me get everybody sent their little name. And I could not find. I already like was trying to get ahead of myself and pulled the names and like wrote it down. I was like, look at me, I am ahead of the game. I have no idea where it is. I lost it. I said Troy, said troy, did you see the like list of names? He's like yeah, it was on the desk upstairs.
Speaker 2:I saw it for like a second and I'm like where did I put it after that? And he's like I don't know, no clue. It'll turn up in july, it will. So I had to redo it, just redraw. Yeah, at least you hadn't like started sending them out and then lost it. Oh yeah, that's one where you just have to sit down and do it all at once, I know which, but then I like, so it ended up taking me double the time yeah, when you were like I'm saving time I'm doing it early.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, the lesson is don't do anything early, wait for the last guess, okay, so?
Speaker 1:let's see, I feel like this game is going a little bit wonky it is especially because I'm like who's who?
Speaker 2:okay, um, but we're good, we're good, um, okay. So, danny, who did tara say is more organized? Actually, yes, who did tara say? Nope, I'm backward, sorry, I need to write your names on these. Okay, who do you think is more organized between the two of you? And then I'll tell you guys who. What you both answered. Danny, you think danny's more organized? What did you? I said we were equal, yes, danny said we are equally organized in type a. Yeah, but tara said danny, yeah, you know, I think I think it's equal.
Speaker 1:Uh, because we are both type a. Yes, we are, I love that I.
Speaker 2:I had that question after we were all just talking about losing stuff. Yeah, I'm like by the who's organized in this room.
Speaker 1:Raise your hand. Organized chaos, which is true, yeah, but I think part of the reason why I might be a touch more organized is because I have kids.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Maybe because you have to, there's more factors involved. I mean, the only reason I'm even slightly organized is because we have so many schedules and so much stuff that I'm like like I had to years ago, just be like I have to sit down once a week and do a longer one and once a month and do this, and then every day I'm or like now I look at things before I go to bed too. Yeah, I gotta look at tomorrow before I go to sleep and like make sure all the things.
Speaker 1:So, oh gosh, we are evolved beings yeah, tara's over here like she don't have human children, so she's like no, no, no, no, like no, no, no, Okay, ooh, this is a fun one Snack or junk food.
Speaker 2:So, dani, what did Tara say is your favorite snack or junk food?
Speaker 1:Did you answer this from when we were kids? Yes, okay, she's mine. Mine from kids was Doritos. What kind? Oh, corn.
Speaker 2:Yes, Still is. She put combos too. Oh and combos. Yes, I forget. Do you like the pretzel combos or the cracker combos? Both you like, both, can't go wrong. Oh no, on the cracker combo.
Speaker 1:I like them all.
Speaker 2:You like them all. And then Tara, what did Dani say was your favorite snack or junk food? Food from kids, doritos and Funyuns. Funyuns, that's what she said Do you know?
Speaker 1:they have flaming hot Funyuns.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not eating that. My kids have brought those home and I was just like I want to try them. I'll regret it.
Speaker 1:I want to try them.
Speaker 2:You should do it later. Oh no, you should do it on the show. Oh I will. That's what we should do Taste test things that have like weird new flavors, okay when we were kids.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and like as old people decide if we like them you're like well, yeah, I'm a heartburn weird coke oreo, oh yeah stuff like that.
Speaker 2:We should do that. Oh, that'd be a good one. That'd be a good one. Taste test ones are always fun. Taste tests are really fun. All right, cool, all right. So let's see. Okay. So, danny, what is a piece of advice that you have given? Let me read this to myself piece of advice your sister has given you that you remember. That's what it is. Okay, danny. What did tara say that I gave her was advice you have given her that she remembers, or that, like, meant a lot to her I don't know.
Speaker 2:It could be literally anything in the whole world. I know.
Speaker 1:That was a really hard one, Katie.
Speaker 2:Oh well, but it's less about the guessing, it's more about the being like oh, I know. So let me just tell you, Okay because I don't know.
Speaker 1:He says well, I don't think I've ever given you advice, except you don't have to answer the phone every time mom calls.
Speaker 3:That's a good one.
Speaker 2:That's close. That's close. She said the importance of setting boundaries. Oh, yeah, yeah. And also lots of great advice regarding diet culture. Oh, facts True.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but she has it too, because she's a medical person.
Speaker 3:But you have, like a lot of times, a different angle. Yeah, that I don't, like I'll know the medical science part, but, like you have a lot of insight into, like the culture, oh yeah, diet culture part, yeah, and the capitalism part of all that.
Speaker 2:There it is. Tara said it first.
Speaker 1:Everybody wants to make sure they say either capitalism or patriarchy on the show.
Speaker 2:They do.
Speaker 1:And it's happened. It's happened. I don't think.
Speaker 2:Troy did, oh, he did Lies. He did, he did, he definitely did. I don't think Brant did, because he doesn't know. Yeah, he doesn't listen, he doesn't listen, he doesn't know.
Speaker 1:But that's okay. I don't think Ben did, because he also.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think Ben did either.
Speaker 1:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:But everyone else make sure they get it in there. Okay, okay.
Speaker 1:So then, tara, what advice have you given Dani that she would say she remembers the most and you can read it, because I don't remember exactly how I worded it.
Speaker 3:I will this is hard, I don't know um, I don't know I have no, he said to just keep my mouth shut sometimes.
Speaker 2:Don't always have to give everything a response or reaction oh what?
Speaker 3:yeah, that's 100, true, true, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that you don't have to respond.
Speaker 1:When we were kids when I was because you know I'm younger I would argue to the death, yeah. And she would always look at me and be like Dani, just shut up. Just shut up, just stop, like literally just stop, because nothing is just going to keep going. And so Cooper is also this way, and she looked at me the other night on the couch and mouth. He is just like you when you were younger.
Speaker 2:Exactly. Yeah, Like a weird thing, Like cause I have siblings who have kids and stuff, and so like I can kind of see it. But is that an interesting part of like being an aunt If you don't have your own kids? Kind of see it. But is that an interesting part of like being an aunt if you don't have your own kids? Kind of watching it reincarnated with your siblings?
Speaker 1:Yes, especially because my kids are almost six years apart, so they have a similar age gap and it's interesting to see how Caden has some similarities to how Tara was and Cooper has some Just sibling wise Right. Yeah that Cooper has some Just sibling wise, right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's really interesting. Cooper has a lot of the personality traits that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you're like. Yeah, I mean Danny always had to have the last word, still do. Yeah, even if it was just whatever that was like. Your favorite word is a little one.
Speaker 1:Whatever. Really, my mom hated it and I'd be like, whatever. And she'd be like, don't say a word Like yeah, cooper is exactly the same way.
Speaker 3:I don't think he's the eye roller like you were oh you were a giant. Oh yeah, eye roller, but the whatever the last word, yeah.
Speaker 2:There you go, see it all comes around, okay, word. Yeah, there you go see it all. It all comes around. Okay, it does.
Speaker 1:Danny, what did tara say is your favorite movie, and I think this goes back to childhood well, now I'm trying to remember, um, if we're going like way back like little kid, little kid era, I loved all the disney movies. Um, loved Little Mermaid and Beauty and the Beast. That's what she said.
Speaker 2:Beauty and the Beast and Little Mermaid. Uh-huh, yep, ding, ding, ding. Okay, so, tara, what did Danny say are your favorite movie Movie?
Speaker 3:or movies, also Little Kid.
Speaker 2:Yeah, little Kid, yeah.
Speaker 3:Probably Grease, do you remember?
Speaker 1:No, I went farther back than that. Oh, farther back.
Speaker 3:Wizard of Oz.
Speaker 1:It's two that I hate that you love Poltergeist.
Speaker 2:That's funny. Poltergeist that's funny. I hate these movies too. No, tell her what they are Mary Poppins and Willy Wonka.
Speaker 1:You hate them, I hate them. And the funny thing was my mom would always forget who liked what, and one year, when we were adults, she thought it would be cute to give us like DVDs of like our favorite kid movies, which, by the way, is a cute idea, adorable. It gave me Willy Wonka and Mary Poppins and I was like Mom, I hate these. She's like, no, you love them. I was like that's the other daughter, wrong one, I didn't know you hated those.
Speaker 2:That's the other daughter Wrong one. I didn't know. You hated those. Yeah, okay, I should be careful, because I own a performing arts studio, to say that I hate Mary Poppins and Willy Wonka. Why, you're allowed your opinion, but they're not my favorites. They're not my favorites Like I will never do the like stage versions of them here Famous Lost Words but like they're just. I didn't like them when I was a kid and I don't like watching them now.
Speaker 1:Well, to be fair, Willy Wonka terrified me.
Speaker 2:It was a little scary.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it scared me the whole tunnel thing where they're trippy and then little girl turning into a blueberry Getting sucked up in the thing.
Speaker 3:I think that's weird.
Speaker 1:I did not like that and I don't know why. I didn't like Maryary poppins. I didn't like a lot of julie andrews movies. I hated sound of music. Yeah, maybe you're not a julie andrews fan. I mean, maybe look tara's like, didn't she forgot that? Yeah, but speaking of greece, of things I should have never watched, we would watch that like every day in the summer, in the summer, every day. So by the time I was probably six or seven, I knew all the words to greased lightning. Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 3:I knew all the words to, uh, sandra d yeah, I was 13 or 14 and for once, whatever reason, we watched it every day summer it was like my thing, every day, every day, every single day I love that though.
Speaker 2:I think that's great.
Speaker 1:Sibling bonding yeah Over grease Tara likes musicals but she's not super into them like me. Like Tara likes them. She enjoys them. But yeah, we watch Grease constantly. I love that, yep.
Speaker 2:Okay, dani, what did Tara say is your biggest pet peeve?
Speaker 1:Chewing loudly. I hate it so much.
Speaker 2:She said smacking which I think is chewing loudly and loud breathers.
Speaker 3:Oh God I hate it, uh-oh. Stop breathing so loud.
Speaker 1:I tell Troy that all the time Breathing. To be fair, he has big nostrils which he can't help, and he does breathe loud. Sit by him today.
Speaker 3:I have never I have troy since he was 17.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that's another fun piece of tara lore.
Speaker 3:Oh, let's pause for a second on that, danny yeah, actually I was his um big sis in the fraternity. He was in and he because his birthday is late. Yeah, he was 17 when he started school. Yeah, so he was like rushing the fraternity at 17 years old. Yeah, dang yeah.
Speaker 2:And you were I was 21. Okay, yeah, so like junior-ish, senior-ish, junior-ish, you were a senior, I was a junior, a junior. Yeah, that makes sense, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then after, but after, but then you didn't meet in college.
Speaker 3:You met after college four years I'm four years younger than troy so you met after college?
Speaker 1:I remember you telling me that, right, I mean, I was 13 when troy went to college. Yeah, that's true. Weird, I never thought about that. Well, I met troy when I came to school and he was came back.
Speaker 3:He was about to leave he was about to leave school. Yeah, for the second time, because he left. Well, he went, and then he left, and then he came back.
Speaker 1:No. So when I met Troy and I came to school, he was about to leave to go join the Air Force. Okay, because he was not doing well at school.
Speaker 2:Right, poor Troy. I know With all not doing well at school, right, poor Troy I know, with all his dropping out of school and nostril stuff, nostril, he's not even here to defend himself.
Speaker 1:Everybody his business. Well, I've never noticed Troy has large nostrils or a braid. No, I don't mean like. I don't mean like excessively large, I just large, I just you guys are gonna be at thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 2:Troy's gonna be like why is tara staring at my face?
Speaker 1:I don't mean like what is going on for big nostrils? I just mean they make a lot of noise when he's breathing. And he's not the only person like I can't mom, mom breeze loud, papa d breeze super loud, and he has sleep apnea. So it's like oh, yeah, yeah, but also like breathing and chewing go together like that yeah anything with the airways yeah anything. Okay, I'm gonna you want me to answer you yes, what's?
Speaker 2:what's tara's biggest? Or what? Yeah, what did I say? What did danny say is your biggest pet peeve? I love this, by the way. It has a lot, but this is one of my favorites. I have a lot.
Speaker 3:Is it loud kids or babies crying?
Speaker 1:No, okay, oh yeah, I knew that was one. I only wrote one.
Speaker 2:Okay, she said forced interactions. Example icebreakers 150,000%.
Speaker 3:She hates and I love icebreakers Me too.
Speaker 1:They're fun. It's terrible, but if you're not that kind of person, yeah right, it's terrible, it's hell I know I get it like trey hates them too. Like it's so funny because I talked to tara I don't remember when this was she had to go to like this work a week ago yeah, and I was like I was like, what'd you do? She was like, oh, I had to go to this team building thing. I was like your favorite it's terrible oh we had
Speaker 3:to play those you know get to know. You game and I just freeze and I don't have answers and I'm not a public speaker.
Speaker 2:So there's something to do that, though I have a lot of them.
Speaker 1:I know we all do. That's a good one, though that's a good one.
Speaker 3:Yeah, um okay but yeah loud kids and babies excessively like because I I don't have kids, so I don't have that like shut off mode where I can block it out and that gives me like super anxiety, especially like in a restaurant or on a plane.
Speaker 1:I mean to be fair, me too, and I do have kids is that hyperphonia no, it's misophonia
Speaker 2:it's hyperphonia. Oh, what does that mean? Probably same thing, just like all sounds yeah that's like a sensory thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah okay.
Speaker 2:So, danny, what did tara say? Are your biggest? Is your biggest fear? Death oh, that's weather. It's weather. Death from from weather, yes, weather that results in death, yeah, weather that can kill you, siri, she said hurricanes, tornadoes, lizards, yeah.
Speaker 1:Literally, that's a good one, which is okay. This is also really funny because our dad worked with weather. He was an oceanographer, he loved hurricanes and stuff, yeah, so why I?
Speaker 3:was so scared of him. I don't know, I don't know. And you came out the shoot like that. Yeah, I mean she came out. You know how they used to like do those alarms on the tv weather alerts. Oh yeah, yeah, she was terrified she would hear that and just run, flip out and go get in the bathtub.
Speaker 1:Oh, we're gonna have basements in Louisiana because you know sea level and all that.
Speaker 3:It was just like. It's just a like, a practice, like real, and she was. She would just lose it. Well, I mean you also hated the weatherman on Sesame Street.
Speaker 1:I know, yeah, what anxiety shows itself early everyone, I guess. So see the signs. Oh, that's so great, yeah, but it was the 80s, so people didn't have words for that then. No correct.
Speaker 2:I was a very anxious kid, and weather was just one way it manifested yeah, I mean weather is so tricky because you, you there, you can't control it, like even if you're getting yourself, quote, unquote, safe.
Speaker 1:There's only so much safe you can make yourself that's a good take on that, I know, so we've tried to figure that out. They go. Katie did it just now. I did it, that's me control. Yeah, control, that's it, I mean. But that's really the bottom line of anxiety. Anyway it is. Yeah, it's a thing.
Speaker 2:Yeah is control if you could fix the things that are making you anxious or make them go the way you wanted, then you wouldn't be anxious, right? Yeah, yikes, okay. So, tara, what did danny say? Is your biggest fear? Roaches? I don't remember what I wrote. That's a good one that one's scared of roaches yeah, me too.
Speaker 1:You said loved ones dying, or that yeah, she used to have nightmares about that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, really, yeah, really was that, um, after your father passed away or before that, you would have nightmares or all the above probably all of the above.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I can remember, even as a little kid, like spending time with my grandma or like my you don't remember the, the great-grandparents, but I do. I'd spent time with them and remembering like they were older. That meant they were gonna die and what was I gonna do?
Speaker 1:and I was gonna be so sad, so it was before yeah yeah, but also, tara had a lot of health problems, like bad health problems, when she was a teenager okay, a young teen and she would remember those nightmares yeah, like you know, night terrors that like little kids get right, you would get really bad ones that she was being chased by the grim reaper. I remember this because you would wake up and you couldn't like get her awake at first and she would scream and scream like she was being murdered.
Speaker 1:Oh I know we, god, we had so much dark. Hello everyone. Welcome to our uh ted talk on trauma yeah, no kidding darkness.
Speaker 3:I'm figuring it out.
Speaker 2:Hello darkness my old friend. That's the one.
Speaker 3:But look at us now. Look at you now, shining like the sun.
Speaker 2:Exactly, exactly. I mean, that's how I feel about you guys Shining like the sun. I said like the sun, like the sun. Well, that's a good segue, actually, to the final question, which is Dani what did Tara say is your greatest strength?
Speaker 1:She listed a few things. My doggone great sense of humor. No, I'm just kidding. We were just talking this morning about how we feel like being funny, because Cooper said mom, you're funny sometimes. What did he say? Oh, I missed that. Oh, he said mom, you know, you're funny. And then he was going to do a joke and say funny looking. But he said mom, you're funny. I said it's a genetic trait of all of us and he's like I was going to say funny looking, but anyway, okay. So my greatest strengths I can talk to a brick wall, but I don't know if she wrote that down. She didn't.
Speaker 2:I don't know. She said determination. Oh yeah, facts, dedication, and I think this is the biggest one and, I would agree, empathy.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah. Yeah, you're really good at like Unless you me, I'm just kidding, which is not very many people, honestly even then I could see you being like yeah, but you know what?
Speaker 2:I can see why they did that because of blah, blah, blah. So I I think, but I feel like you do that too terrace that way as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it depends on my mood you say that, but I think I think you're, I think you're the same pretty understanding, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:So, tara, what did danny say is your greatest strength?
Speaker 3:this is so hard.
Speaker 2:You might cry when she reads oh, gosh um resilience yeah, it doesn't say that word, but that's essentially what she said. She said she always overcomes every single obstacle thrown at her. She is tenacious and a hard worker and even when sidelined, she gets back up and keeps going until she succeeds.
Speaker 1:It's so true, she's tenacious T.
Speaker 2:Tenacious, tenacious, tata, tenacious T.
Speaker 1:It's true. How many times have you gone to school? A million. She has 80 million degrees. She had 80 million like and just kept going. And Tara loves school and she's like I want to do this, I'm going to keep going.
Speaker 3:That's so great. It's also from our childhood, since this is a childhood episode. I mean I learned that achievement, particularly in school or education, was how you could get like kind of recognition and what I thought was love at the time I miss that. Yeah, you didn't get what, but we're seven years apart.
Speaker 1:I know.
Speaker 3:So part of our childhood is while we were raised the same. In some ways we were, I know, yeah, part of our childhoods. While we were raised the same, in some ways we were raised different, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I mean I see that even with Kate, even Kate, Kate, and I'll tell you all the time oh, Cooper, you have it so much easier and he kind of does, yeah.
Speaker 2:And you agree. Yeah, yeah, same with my, my littlest, like after the other five, it's like good luck. Yeah Well, yeah, seriously, like I would like. What did? What did tegan eat? Prance like I don't know. She found something.
Speaker 1:she's 10, but she's also, I think, your most creative and innovative one. She is she is.
Speaker 2:Well, when you guys were talking about like survival or whatever, we joke that like we could drop all five of our kids in like a jungle and four would die and tegan would be like queen of the jungle.
Speaker 1:By the end of the week she would have a store built, she would have her own sense of commerce and, like industry, she would have invented money. It's just so funny.
Speaker 2:But yeah, it's true, because, first of all, in the course of seven years, people change.
Speaker 1:So your parents change?
Speaker 2:But then also you have more parenting experience. You know the things that maybe you thought were going to be so bad, aren't?
Speaker 2:so bad yeah, but I mean I'm with you. Um, tara, even now, like I just remember always feeling like like getting the a's or like doing really well at the performance or in the sport or whatever was was like what you had to do, right, because that and and I remember even having a sense of like that made things easier for my parents somehow which is kind of weird, yeah, but like one of my brothers had learning disabilities and so my mom spent a lot of time with him and I just remember thinking like well, if I just like do my homework, then like she doesn't have to worry about me, and that's a very like oldest child thing yes To kind of take on part of it.
Speaker 2:No one asked me to do that, but I felt like, right when, um, my daughter, amelia who you've, you've now met as well, tara, um, she, my dad, when she was like a toddler or something, she was like playing on a playground my dad was visiting and he said, um, you know, she really reminds me of you. You always had such a sense of duty. And I actually like struggled with that and still do, kind of, because he meant it as a compliment, yeah. But the more I thought about it, the more I was like, well, how much do I still do because I feel like I have to? And how much am I doing because I like, right, I'm passionate about something, or it's my calling or it's like, and I was just like, oh, I don't know if I want to be that kind of person, right, you know.
Speaker 2:And then, like, I said something to my husband about it, because I do a lot of work on um, like alzheimer's research and stuff, because my mom has early onset, and I said, am I, do I even want to do this? Am I just doing this? Because I feel like, well, this happened to me. Now I gotta figure it out. Now I gotta whatever, I gotta move the needle, and he did have a good point. He's like well, if no one ever felt a sense of duty, no one would ever do anything like there would point, there wouldn't be money raised for cancer, there wouldn't be, he's like.
Speaker 2:so it's not bad, but I think it is like a matter of like, now that we're older and wiser, going. Okay, is it duty and what I want to do and what I feel called to do, or is it just obligation? Right, and that's where you have to find the difference.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's like lifelong battle.
Speaker 1:And for sure, because I feel like I had that in a different way, not with school, I mean. Well, to be fair, in our house good grades were expected, not rewarded, so, like A's and B's, you were just expected to get those. That's just the way it was. Uh, a, c was only accepted if that was your best work, right, and even then like, but I struggled more in school with math stuff than tara, but I mean still, I still was an honor student, like I had to get tutors and like like all that stuff. But I felt like like she, she's like you know achievement and all that. I felt like I had to keep myself together, know achievement and all that. I felt like I had to keep myself together, like emotionally, because so much else was a mess, even though I was the youngest, which is super weird.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and tara had a lot of health problems too, which is a lot on a teenager, but then on the parents, yeah, we're stressed and my mom's a nurse and had to take care of you know that, so I was always trying to just fly under the radar with that Like, so that's weird that we have.
Speaker 2:It's kind of a sense of duty in different ways. Yeah, which?
Speaker 1:is weird. And don't worry guys, we've been in therapy lots of time, it's all good now.
Speaker 2:We say that a lot on here. We're like before we get a bunch of emails that are like I know.
Speaker 1:I always think of jet. We have our friend Jen who's a psychiatric nurse practitioner and. I'm like she is analyzing every episode. I know she's like oh God.
Speaker 2:Danny, like what do I need to swoop in man? Like I hear their cries for help on this this year podcast.
Speaker 1:Okay. So before we end yeah, let's end on a funny note Okay, I want you to share, think about it for a second A funny memory from when we were kids.
Speaker 3:Oh, I love it. Can I tell the pinworm story?
Speaker 1:Sure, why the hell not? I mean, you have to now. Well, first let's explain to everybody what pinworms are, in case nobody's ever had them.
Speaker 3:Well, it's like an intestinal infection with these little worms and little kids parasite. Yeah, but they're common in little kids and kids pass them around a lot, so it's great we had a pool growing up and it we you were like potty training yeah, I was little, you were maybe three yeah, and two or three, and so I don't remember like we brought this little bitty like training potty, training potty outside.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 3:I don't know if it's because you wouldn't make it inside or because mom didn't want us like traipsing through wet, which I probably both, which I understand. So Danny went poop and the training potty and it was filled with pinworms.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, they're white too right, they look like maggots.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and that's what I thought I'm so glad this is the story.
Speaker 1:You chose To be fair. You wanted to do this. I know you brought this up. That's the first story that pops in your head. Can I tell the story when you shit worms, great, keep going.
Speaker 3:It's a core memory.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is, I remember it. I was traumatized.
Speaker 3:We both remember this because I thought it was maggots. Oh my God, which is scary, because I'm like 10. Poltergeist and my sister's shit and worms oh my God Like a lot Like it wasn't just like one or two.
Speaker 1:Oh, because you get diarrhea.
Speaker 3:Right, right, right, right, talking like swimming.
Speaker 1:Everybody's throwing up now. I hope no one's eating, or was.
Speaker 3:And so then she sees it and she freaks out. So we've got like two hysterical children in the backyard. She's naked because she had taken her bathing suit off to poop, and I'm trying to do so. I'm like screaming for my mom.
Speaker 1:Why was nobody outside with us? I don't know, it was the 80s.
Speaker 3:I don't know, I don't know who knows.
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 3:So mom comes out there and then she's like, oh, it's just pinworms again. Danny would get them from this. We don't know who, I don't think.
Speaker 1:Well, you get them from like playing in the dirt and stuff.
Speaker 3:But I think you were getting exposed by someone pretty great and they're super contagious yeah, contagious, so like if one person is in your house gets them. Everybody has to take a medicine.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah so. Oh, that's so funny. That's just the first thing. I love that one all right. Well then I'm gonna tell the sunshine question.
Speaker 1:Again, I approved this memory story. Oh, here's a funny one. Okay, that just shows how big sisters or big siblings can be. So again pool. Yeah, we had a pool we had I know, we had a cocker spaniel growing up who is so hyper. Okay, her name was sunshine. Oh, tara named her.
Speaker 2:I had a cocker spaniel growing up. Named sunshine. No banjo, is it a yellow one?
Speaker 3:what is it? Is it yellow? Yeah, yeah, we had a yellow one.
Speaker 2:That's weird that we didn't know that until right now, which it's kind of sad though, because Sunshine lived outside.
Speaker 1:No, she liked it, she swam in the pool, I mean, but anyway she was super hyper, okay.
Speaker 1:So our house growing up, we had a pool and a fence Just a fence, not an enclosure. That was not a thing back in the day, but we had woods behind us, okay. So there were lots of critters that would be around because it was south louisiana and, um, tara and i's one of our chores, because we had chores from jump, like before I could read, we had a chore list, yeah, um, and one of our jobs was to I had to empty the pool filter and Tara had to, I think, vacuum the pool or something. So we go out in the morning to do this and there's this hissing sound coming from the basket of the pool filter, like it's covered, it's like a hissing and I'm like I don't remember if I was out there first and I got you or whatever, but I was like Tara, there's a, there's a hissing coming from the thing and she's like, of course you know we think it's a snake, so she goes. Okay, I'm going to hold the dog, you go lift up In fairness the dog was going crazy.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, the dog was losing her mind Cause she could hear whatever critters in this little skimmer, right yeah. So me being a little sister who just wants to do anything, I'm like, okay, walk over to the thing to take the cover off and out jumps this poor squirrel who was half drowned, literally. Like you know on Elf, where he goes to hug the squirrel and it like jump. That's what happened Now. It went past me, thank God.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I scream, tara screams, she lets the dog go. The dog's freaking out. I was so mad and I think we called mom at work which we were never supposed to do and I was like Tara told me it wasn't her fault. But I remember that I knew you were going to say that story. Oh my gosh, she also locked me outside one time in a towel because she told me to go get the mail real quick, and then she locked the door.
Speaker 3:There's lots of mean stories like that.
Speaker 1:Lots of mean ones.
Speaker 3:I told the Barbiebie story. That's nice, that was really. There are mean ones, I mean I. I regret that I was mean to you, but that's just what kids do. It's on the record. Yeah, I've told you.
Speaker 1:I know I've just and I've told caden that. I know she tells caden that all the time she's like now caden I mean caden gets mean, but he's not, he doesn't. I think he realizes it like he'll be a jerk and then he'll be like super nice. Like he knows right away, yeah, but I mean their childhood's a little different because they, you know, we moved a lot and they kind of had to, they had to bond.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, like, yeah, that makes sense. Oh my gosh, that's so funny.
Speaker 1:I remember we would get possums stuck under the deck. Yes, and you could just look and just see their eyes staring at you and the dog would lose it. Yes, because she couldn't get to them. Yeah yeah, we had. I told the roach story, oh yeah, oh about the chimney.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh, my God, that story, I remember that.
Speaker 3:I can still picture that happening, I know.
Speaker 2:No wonder you guys don't like I mean not that anyone really likes roaches they're not like someone's, but why you like have a phobia.
Speaker 1:Oh my god we were playing a game, uh, with the kids the other night, a trivia one uh-huh. Do y'all ever play quip quiplash on your tv? Oh, it's so much fun you should. And it's basically you type in answers, and there was one that and you have to like pick who had the better answer, and it was like what, what is a nightmare? A common nightmare.
Speaker 3:How do you?
Speaker 1:know you're in a nightmare? How do you know you're in a nightmare? And Tara's was roaches and no air conditioning. Roaches and it's super hot. Oh, it's super hot and it's super hot, yeah.
Speaker 2:Oh, I love that.
Speaker 1:What before, stani? Oh, I didn't have that one oh it's different people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, gotcha, gotcha. I've never played it. I was like oh, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know what mine would be.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's so funny, macking loudly there you go.
Speaker 1:People around me breathing and chewing People. Breathing and chewing Period, that'd be my health.
Speaker 3:A room full of people smacking.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh, I love that. Well, this, if you've even had fun. If you are on the YouTube, you see that she's smiling guys, she made it and she looks like a little mini person the way she does.
Speaker 1:She's shorter than me, which is funny. I'm 5'2" and I'm the tallest female.
Speaker 2:But I mean, look at the screen right now, Dana. Look at you and then look at her.
Speaker 3:I think it's partly the angle too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm like, scooted my chair back and took the shorter chair because I was like, no, yeah, I'm not gonna not gonna voluntarily be the giants on this episode. Um well, thank you so much, tara. Hopefully next time you're in town we can have you back and listeners. Hopefully this is like if you have siblings sparked some fun questions you can ask town, we can have you back and listeners. Hopefully this is like, if you have siblings sparked some fun questions you can ask each other. And now you know who we're talking about when we say Tara, and you know it's okay, we forgive her for getting a Thighmaster and a Stairclimber or whatever it was Stairstepper, stairstepper.
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